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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IMO, a gap year can be good. More time to grow up, take a break from relentless academic pressure.

However, it doesn't appear that the reason your DS wants a gap year is any of those. Seems more like he is disappointed in the admissions results and so he wants to go sulk.

I get it.  DC with really really high stats from a magnet got shut out of all but one safety, which is the local (and I mean local) flagship.  They didn't want to go to the local college for 13th year. However, after getting over the initial sting, we went to the open house, and DC started to get really excited about the prospect of living on campus (even though we are really close, we want DC to experience that independent), and that their good friends are also going there.

But, the initial sting did really do a number on their ego. Everyone expected them to go to a "better" school because DC is super smart and has this reputation at school.

I think your concerns are legitimate.  Did you take them to the open house at all? Did they tour the campus at all?    I think your DS is basically running away from the problem, tbh.

I have always told DC that the experience that they have wherever they are is what they make of it and that life is full of disappointments, but you have to make lemonade out of lemons -- trite, I know.. but still true.

Your DC could also go to community college for a year or two and then try to transfer to the college they really like.

I do think your concerns are valid. It's very possible that he has a harder time trying to get back into academics after taking that gap year.  He seems to not be able to get over the disappointing college results.  Explain to him that so many kids have gotten disappointing college results, including my own kid with really high stats, and DC is not alone in this.

IMO the bigger concern to me is that your kid is not able to handle a huge disappointment without wanting to run away.[/quote]

Ms or Mr. Tough therapist  gross [/quote]

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