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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here we go with this same tired old topic again.

Look, the bottom line is simple:  it's better to have kids young.  Biology prefers it for a reason.

Of course older mothers are going to disagree, because they have to validate their choices or circumstances.  [b]All of this baloney about the benefits of having kids older -- being financially secure, having fun in your youth, etc. -- benefit the [i]parents[/i], not the kids.[/b]  If, for example, you're a struggling grad student, having a kid doesn't hurt the kid because your future earnings potential is presumably high.

That's what we did.  We got married in our early 20s, got our kids out of the way while going to grad school, and had all four before we were 30.  Now our kids are full grown, and the parents of their kids' friends are closer to our age than theirs.  And our kids didn't suffer economically, academically, or socially because we didn't wait until the timing was "perfect" by DCUM's definition.  To the contrary, they thrived.  [/quote]

That’s entirely untrue. I had young parents. They were perpetually stressed about money, and had mediocre emotional regulation at best. They mellowed out a lot when they got older and matured.  They should’ve waited 10 years and my sister and I might’ve had a better childhood. [/quote]

That's interesting.  So you would be OK with having your parents die ten years earlier for you if it meant a better childhood?[/quote]

seems like a no brainer? childhood is more important. [/quote]

Wouldn't that depend on the hypothetical degree of improvement? Like, a 20% better? 15% better? 40% better? How many years of your parents' life is that worth?   What would that sound like?  "I'd be OK losing my mother at 35 instead of 45 if it meant she'd yell less and bought me better shoes."? Like this? Or something else?[/quote]

Having children when you are broke and immature just so you can have grandparents young enough to babysit is twisted.

Most people in their 20s aren't great parents. Most marriages don't survive when they have kids that young.

Simple facts.[/quote]

It's not facts. The majority of people around the world have children in their 20s.

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The majority of people in this country have children in their 20s. DC (and other urban areas) are the anomaly.[/quote]

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