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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here’s the deal. I am Black American. In my “culture” spankings and beatings are the norm. I still do not do it and know it is wrong. I was spanked and don’t want that for my kids. I don’t care that it is acceptable in other cultures. Female genitalia mutilation is acceptable in some cultures, but we are pretty comfortable blanket deciding that practice is wrong right? What about child brides? Some cultures find that practice acceptable. IMO this is an issue where there is a clear right side and wrong side.

Would you hit an adult who defies you or pisses you off in some way? And have that be an acceptable course of action with that person where they would be expected to continue having a normal relationship with you after being hit? If it is not ok, why are you claiming it is acceptable in any way to beat kids?[/quote]

Oh please. Would you take a toy from an adult as punishment. Would you ask an adult to sit in a corner for a few minutes as punishment? Would you call an adult's mother if they misbehave at work?

I don't spank, but this rationale of treating kids as adults would categorize most forms of punishment as wrong.[/quote]

I don't do punishments... that sets up the thought process that I am setting an arbitrary result to whatever behavior I like.  Instead, we focus on self-discipline, as in the child learning the discipline needed to be in control of their body and actions.  There are logical and/or natural consequences to every action, some visible and some hidden, varying from positive to neutral to negative.  I don't rescue them from the consequences that they earn through their choices, but I do offer help talking through the other choices they had in the hope that they make a different choice next time.[/quote]

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