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[quote=Anonymous]I recently started to SAH when my 2nd child was born, after WOH in a demanding career (equally demanding to how my DH's job was at that time and is now).  I am a little scared about eventually finding something to do work-wise once my kids are in school.  But SAH is awesome and I would be a little resentful if I really wanted this opportunity and our situation didn't allow me to take it.  DH is probably a little jealous that I get to spend more time parenting than he does, but all in all we are very secure in the fact that our children will have one full time parent in this crucial stage in their development and one parent who is present and very involved as much as he can be considering work (rather than 2 parents who are present and involved as much as they can be considering their work schedules).  My older child was in a wonderful child care situation while I was still working (from 6 months to 2 years old), but there's no comparison for my own peace of mind to me being home with them.  My main thing is even if they turned out beautifully after spending 40-50 hours/week in childcare away from their parents, I never want to have the regret that I missed their childhoods.  No part of me believes that there is any chance that they could turn out worse for my staying home with them rather than them being in full time child care.  My DH works as much now as he did when we had full time childcare, but he definitely feels more connected to their days when I am SAH than he did when we had our previous childcare, b/c, as a PP indicated, I keep in touch with him very regularly throughout the day and in a much more personal way than our old childcare could have or did (even though they were great).  For us, the bottom line is that, while we do believe it can't hurt/might help our kids growth and development in these crucial years for one of us to be a full time parent, I was really motivated to do it in no small part for my own (and DH's) peace of mind.  I would probably resent it if I didn't have the chance to do this.
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