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My kids have been away from both parents 45 to 50 hours a week since the age of three months. I can't see any ill effects in them compared to their friends who grew up with a SAHP from birth.

NP.  Not in favor of SAHM over WOH, but this logic is faulty to me and I hear it a lot from WOH parents.  You cannot compare outcomes because you cannot do it twice (raise your kid.) And you can't compare to other kids because there are so many other variables that factor in.

Its like the "babies on formula do just fine' from mothers who choose not to breastfeed - so why breastfeed?  Are all kids who were formula fed obese, not as smart, not attached, etc?  no - so why do so many mothers bother?  Are kids whose lives are not supplemented with dance, music, soccer, academic camps, fill in the blank classes destined to work at McDonald's?  Of course not.  Why do we bother then?
Why do we bother to do anything that we think is good for our kids if said thing does not guarantee a specific outcome?

If parents believe that being a SAHM or SAHD will benefit their kid, they are often faced with the 'you're wasting your time, it makes no difference bc I WOH and my kids are doing great" line or the defensive, "what are you saying about MY kids then??!" from WOH parents.

I agree that kids can do great in many, many different kinds of scenarios.  But does this mean, then that SAHPs are necessarily wasting their time for choosing this path?

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