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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I resent it and not always so secretly.  We had always planned on me staying at home but my career took off when his didn't.  He makes less than half of what I do and his salary barely covers daycare.  He's just not suited to be a SAHD though and if he did SAH, I would probably be extremely jealous.[/quote]

Ugh!  This is me too.  Though I don't let DH know I resent it.  I think the fact is that I also do 90% of the housework / childcare on top of being the breadwinner and having a much more demanding job than DH.

But for those who say that people like me should have planned better, this situation wasn't something I saw coming.  When we met and ultimately married, DH had a solid career and was making twice what I was.  But he suffers from depression (also something that emerged after we married) and that has zapped his ambition.  Meanwhile, my career took off.  It's tough.  I'd love to be a SAHM or at least work part time.  But it's not an option.  And DH brings in slightly more than what daycare costs but he'd make a terrible SAHD.  [/quote]

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