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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Daycare - $550 (550 would be from DH's portion)
Commute - Gas, wear and tear - $100 
Parking - $0 no fee for mw
Cleaning Services - $125 (125 comes out of DH paycheck since he uses and likes a clean home)
Clothing - none - I don't buy work attire anymore, it's casual all the time
Drycleaning - 0 - do not buy clothes that need drycleaning
Lunches - $100 (only because I like going on happy hours for my own adult sanity)
Coffees/Breakfast on the Run - 0 - 
Takeout - $150 (another 150 comes from DH's paycheck since he eats as well)

My girls watching me and learning the importance of being financially independent - priceless

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My mom probably said the same thing about me watching her. Too bad what I actually saw was a stressed busy mom who didn’t seem to have enough time for me ever. I stay at home now.[/quote]

My mom is a PhD and worked in research and was a professor. She is a great mom, we're very close and we got plenty of quality time with her. IMO, I see a lot of the stressed busy mom situations when the mom is working menial, low paying jobs with very little flexibility. I WFH 4 days/week making around 218K with amazing benefits and had plenty of time for mine, who are now older. I totally disagree with one of the PP who said some jobs, like medicine, are inflexible. My entire family is in medicine and my SIL is an MD and works from home PT, in a cushy position, doing research and making a ton of money. My MIL is a nurse working for the feds as a GS-15 all remote. A lot of my lawyer moms left big law and work for associations or in-house. I'm at a regulatory agency and my office just hired 2 pregnant lawyers. They will get 3 months paid maternity leave and then they will have to come back in the office once a week starting in 2023, IF they have reliable childcare.  
The trick is to get a lot of valuable education, get established at work, be a great performer and then have kids and look for flexibility. The more educated one is, the better the opportunities for a flexible, well-paid and less stressful job.   [/quote]

My mom was a SAHM and never had “time” for me.[/quote]

My mom was a SAHM when I was little and I vaguely remember it.  She became a WOHM when I was in 5th grade and my brother was in MS and we developed a nice family rhythm--my brother and I each cooked dinner once a week and got along pretty well with each other.  I felt like our time with her was very good and we liked feeling like we contributed in ways that really helped our parents. When we were in HS she returned to being a SAHM  again because my parents didn't need the money, and it was a real strain on our relationship.  She became way too invested and involved in our lives, especially mine and she made me feel guilty if I didn't want to spend more time with her instead of friends (I was a 'good' kid though so I would usually bend to what she wanted).  She also felt obligated to "do everything" around the house so we stopped cooking and doing as many chores.  She now looks back on that time as a down period and regrets it and went back to work when we were in college. We have a good relationship now.  I don't think SAH/WOH tells you anything about how you parent.[/quote]

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