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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a light sleeper and would be awakened easily by a crying baby down the hall. The groggy sleep of the dead isn't easy for us Olds. My H and I will sometimes have perfectly coherent conversations in the night when one of us simply turns over in bed.

So her impulse to get up and see if she can help probably seems perfectly normal to her. Try to show some compassion for aging parents if you can.[/quote]

Once AGAIN, they told her repeatedly every night that they did not need or want help and to please go back to bed.

It is not her baby. She is not the parent. Her loud-talking “help” is not required.[/quote]

I would have altered my routine such that there was as little crying as possible to avoid waking up the MIL since the "routine" obviously played out the same way every night. Screw the bathroom and diaper change, nurse the baby right away, back to sleep, then use the bathroom. Seems like everyone just kept making the same mistakes again and again and expecting a different outcome.[/quote]

Anyone who expected me to leave my baby in a soiled diaper so they don’t hear four minutes of crying is someone I can visit overnight once my child is potty trained. My goodness.[/quote]

A good mom wouldn't let the baby cry for 4 minutes in any of this. Do better.[/quote]

I don’t need to, thankfully, my parents and in laws are respectful, kind people who love their granddaughter.[/quote]

Oh, you only have one? Figures. You sounds inexperienced and new to this. [/quote]

Yup! But learning very quickly to be thankful for my parents and in-laws who would never behave like this! [/quote]

Mine aren't like that either, but the whole "it's MY baby not yours" sounds like very brand new mom speak. When you have more kids and are spread thin you become a little more grateful for the help you can get and aren't so worried about being judged for your parenting skills as a first time mom. [/quote]

DP. I have three kids and only find "help" helpful when it's on my terms. I'm not worried about being judged and I don't need free childcare. Luckily, my parents and ILs are normal people who understand - and enjoy! - their role.[/quote]

I'm not sure what kind of "help" you thought I was referring to. I was thinking along the lines of when the baby is crying and wanting to be nursed a grandparent can play with or distract another child. Without being too worried about what they were playing, or what snack they were eating, things I might have been more uptight about when there was only 1. I think most people loosen up after the first and stop trying to control every little thing[/quote]

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