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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel sad that your new DH is not paying for your daughter's education.  He ought to understand that makes things very awkward both for his stepdaughter and for OP.  OP's daughter is the Cinderella of this situation, without a knight or a fairy to rescue her.  Even her mama sold her downriver.  I haven't read the 17 pages, only the first, so maybe I'm missing some information.

If I were OP, I would sit down and have a heart to heart with DH.  Explain to him, since he's an idiot, that his help is needed.  Exert pressure.  Deny sex.  Silent treatment.  Disapproval.  Maximum pressure.  Why?  Because it's her daughter, and because evidently he's either clueless, or an ass.  I'd be pissed if he hadn't generously and profusely insisted on paying for his step daughter's education, without being prompted.  I mean, are they married, or not?  If money is no issue for him, why withhold the needed assistance?

What a peach the man is.

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But OP's daughter has a father.[/quote]

thanks to OP she also has a stepfather because of whom she must be saddled with college loans wherever she goes. and her mom’s biggest problem is that her own daughter is not gently tiptoeing around people that they happen to share home with (mom’s own view of the “family”).[/quote]

And your paying for your step kids college?[/quote]

no, I don’t have step kids and, if I were to become divorced/widowed I would not remarry before my kids are adults. you don’t sacrifice your kids to get a second class ride on a gravy train.[/quote]

So basically you're in here virtue signaling and talking out of your ass [/quote]

DP. PP do you really think there is no problem with the marriage certificate locking her out of tens of thousands of dollars in financial aid despite the fact that DD has no access to household funds?

I don't think SD should have to pay (although I do think he should and as a stepchild believe that stepchildren should be treated equally), but he should, at minimum, be involved in how to put DD in the best financial position possible. Because theoretically he IS an adult in her life who cares about her and has a vested interest in her future as someone who loves her. [/quote]

2 desperate issues. I personally think college should be free. But that's not what the government says right now. The government says she doesn't get financial aid. 
Iso if she wants to go to college she has to figure another way.

It would be nice if stepdad helped but she's not entitled to a $300,000  education from him or the inheritance his children from his previous marriage will be getting

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