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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a friend who has one child in AP. Their second child did not get in. It is absolutely crushing the family. The second child’s entire core of self-esteem and confidence has been obliterated and now they will be attending a different school than their sibling so it’s rubbed in on a daily basis.  It’s really heartbreaking and makes me reconsider even desiring AAP in case it should it be some thing that only one of my kids got into.[/quote]

That is on the family for not handling the situation well and putting way too much emphasis on a specific program. Neither kids identity should be determined based on being in a specific academic program, especially in ES. There was no reason to ever tell the first one that the program made them special, only that it met their academic needs. There is no reason the the second to feel lesser because they have different needs.[/quote]

This exactly. My child knew nothing about the committee process or admissions. He knows he’s in AAP bc he learns differently than some peers but it doesn’t make him special or better than anyone else. Have we now surrendered all parental responsibility in framing the narrative of such things for our children? [/quote]

Of course not.  You can frame it any way you like.  But once those kids are at school - especially center schools, where there are as many AAP as GE classes - and the kids will take care of the rest.  You’re kidding yourself to think otherwise.
DP[/quote]

I’m not “kidding myself” as my kids are at a particularly cut-throat center elementary as our base school. My child still doesn’t think he’s more special or better than anyone in GE and he has plenty of friends who aren’t in AAP. I’m sure there probably are kids who talk this way but i can guarantee it comes directly from their parents — so stop blaming centers for killing self-esteem, start looking in the mirror, and spend a little extra time on the message you’re sending as parents (I’m saying this in general terms, I make no assumptions in regards to the messaging you use w your kids). Perhaps FCPS should offer a parent primer during the AAP informational sessions on not being an a-hole. [/quote]

Perhaps, but that will do nothing when it comes to the kids who always have and always will know who’s in the “advanced” classes and who isn’t.  This is human nature.  If AAP is going to continue, then perhaps the centers need to be *only* AAP kids -like TJ.  Gen Ed kids deserve to enjoy school without being considered second class citizens by their peers (and by many teachers).[/quote]

That chip on your shoulder must be really annoying.  What you’re describing is completely over the top and hysterical. Please tell me specifically how your child is treated like a second class citizen because they aren’t in the level 4 program at your center. Also, maybe work on getting your kid to accept that there will always be people that are ahead of them in some things—in this case, academics. And sometimes those people are pricks. Why is this taboo for kids to understand? Rude awakening if the first place they learn it is college.[/quote]
But most kids in AAP are not that ahead of students in gen ed except for a select few.   You seem defensive.  Not PP but it absolutely does happen.   Why do AAP parents not get this?  If AAP was a TRUE GT program where few really smart kids got in, I don’t think there would be this division.  [/quote]

That is simply untrue in my experience. Most of the kids are quite far ahead.[/quote]

DP.  No.  They are not.  Most are simply average-above average students who did well on the entrance test.  That’s it.  [/quote]

Maybe at your school in an area of the county that has “8-10” school. In my part of the county, no. The kids are WAY ahead. [/quote]

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