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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m reviving this thread because it’s 4:51 in the morning, I’m bored and I can’t sleep. However, I’d like to focus specifically on the “married red pill” sect of the red pill school of thought. For the last few hours, I’ve been reading up on documented biological differences in sex, personality disorders and differences by sex, and Reddit “married red pill” threads. my wife and I, who have been married for a decade, frequently butt heads, so I like to read psychology today articles and self self adhere to try and improve things.

On married red pill Reddit, I see elements of misogyny enmeshed with self-help . Some of the advice touted by some of these posters, upon a cursory glance is appealing. Obviously, still, it helps to think objectively, and take this stuff with a grain of sand. Or at least the most sexist, low brow elements of it.

My wife and I argue, for myriad reasons. I can be obstinate and difficult. However, I can’t help but feel, due to general biological differences, attributed to hormones and brain chemistry that these sex differences cause huge arguments. on the whole, studies show that women are more emotionally driven than men and that women’s decision making is generally more informed by feeling. It’s just how, generally, based on historical scientific evidence states y’all are wired. Men, on the whole, are less about forming bonds and connections than women and prefer tangible, outcome based solutions to arguments and problems.   I see this emotion/feeling driven thought pattern creep up with my wife when we have to make important financial decisions, which require detached logic.

Also, men aren’t as emotionally erratic or flighty as women because we don’t have menstrual cycles.

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5iyt6v/hormones_the_chemical_puppet_master/

Anyway, my hands are tired of typing on a phone. Tldr there is some interesting advice.[/quote]

Dude.  Emotions matter just as much as logic.  Think of children who grow up in clinical settings where they are fed and changed, but never cuddled or loved on.  Many of them die.  You need to feed and change your baby AND you need to love it.  Or think of the last car you bought.  You want to love the car emotionally AND make a logical decision on what car to buy.  If you never considered your emotions when making a decision, your life would be devoid of meaning.

The reason you are having problems in your marriage isn’t that you don’t understand your wife.  The problem s that you don’t think your wife’s opinions matter very much, or at least not as much as yours do.  And you aren’t searching the web to find out more about how she thinks.  You are looking for someone to validate your perspective.  That way you don’t have to change, and you can sleep.

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