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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow! Stepped away and I appreciate you all giving me advice.  In brief, we had what I thought was a healthy sex life (3-4x a week).  He did not confess...the sister of the AP called me to tell me to keep DH away from the sister as it was ruining her life.  I work and make a decent salary. I am in a tail spin and trying to keep it together for DCs. I would have told you just a bit ago that DH was awesome...devoted Dad and DH.  [/quote]

Oh wow.  I’m so, so sorry.  That is devastating.

I think this is too big.  I was a pp saying give it a chance, but I thought he confessed.  I thought he was the one that ended the relationship.  thought he felt remorse and confessed.

How old was the woman? Was she married?  It’s crazy the sister had to intervene.

Please take care of yourself.  The trauma from this is no joke.[/quote]

Hugs.  It is particularly mind blowing when you had a great/active sex life, a good marriage and family life.  I had to almost slap myself every morning for the first 3 months to snap myself back into the new reality...he wasn’t who I thought he was.  You give half your life and it’s like finding out he was a Russian spy or something.  It is a mind f@ck.  Makes you question everything.  It does a number on you trusting yourself.

Here’s the thing: they were that good at lying and deceiving.  Truly.  And it was about them in these type of good marriages.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.  Sometimes there really are zero signs. [/quote]

Thank you so much for everything you wrote.  Thought I was the only one who felt like this.  It's really hard to keep the reality 'real' because the deception was so successfully, expertly hidden.[/quote]

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