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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to totally do some projecting of my own issues here. My mother is very charming and impulsive and as Jen would say :"spicy" and "too much." She totally finds cutesy ways to portray her alarming behavior. She had me convinced all my parent's marital drama was dad's faulty and I bought into it for years. (They stayed married.) When I was on her good side it was glorious, but as I became more of a daddy's girl she made my life hell. The woman everyone loooooves outside was such a tyrant to me I still dream of divorcing her. I feel enough connection to be there for her in old age in some capacity, but i do think she is toxic to my health if I get too close. It's all the more difficult because people love her so much, if I ever shared my truth, they wouldn't believe me and she would spin it so I am the bad guy.

This is why I give Brandon the benefit of the doubt the person who used to have something like "champion of the underdog" on his IG. I am loyal, kind, humble and just don't have the kind of charisma to win people over the way mom does, but that does not make me the bad guy. If alcoholism were in my genes I probably would have developed a problem coping with her. I certainly had eating issues in the past-both extremes and other struggles before I set and enforced major boundaries with my mother.[/quote]

Feel for you, and let me just say that narcissistic and borderline dynamics are very well known in the larger culture now so some people in your circle (probably younger ones)  will get it and get you. Many more people are psychologically sophisticated and will get it. I wish that for you, even one person can help.[/quote]

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