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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Even though he's mature and independent and was reading when he started K, [b]he struggles a bit more at school.[/b]  [/quote]

Personally, I'd rather my kid do okay playing by the rules than excel by cheating.[/quote]

LOL. I love how a decision that another family makes is "cheating" just because you are terrified it will give their kid an edge over your precious little Larla.

It's not cheating. The rules explicitly allow it. Make choices for your own family, and let others make theirs without having to listen to your whining about how the small percentage of slightly older kids is ruining your darling's experience.[/quote]

I guess redshirting isn't cheating as long as the redshirted kid isn't allowed to enter any competitions, such as class president or valedictorian. They also shouldn't be allowed to take honors or AP classes, because if a redshirted kid is feeling bored and unchallenged, all that means is that they shouldn't have been redshirted, and that the parents and school really consider moving them to their age-appropriate grade. If redshirted kids wants to play sports, they should be forced to play in their age-appropriate grade. I don't even think redshirted kids should be allowed to apply to any top-20 colleges.

If parents who redshirt really aren't doing it for competitive reasons, then they should be fine with their child not being allowed to compete. Otherwise, they're taking away the victory from an age-appropriate classmate who truly deserved it. If an 11-year-old 5th-grader becomes class president, that means they're being rewarded for proving that they're smarter than most 10-year-olds(How much sense does that make?). A 15-year-old 9th grader taking all honor's classes is only proving that they're too advanced for 14-year-old work. If a high-school senior who should be a college freshman is named valedictorian, they've just robbed the salutatorian of some well-earned glory. If a redshirted student gets into Harvard, they've just killed a life-long dream of whoever was first on the Harvard waiting list.[/quote]

You'll be pleased to know that our redshirted kid is still at the bottom of her class - because she has developmental issues.  So your snowflakes won't be competing with her for a spot at Harvard.  You are a giant ass.[/quote]
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It sounds like your daughter is still in elementary schoo[/b]l. Colleges only look at high-school performance. Even if she's not doing well now, a lot could change between now and when she's in school, and the advantage she was given could kick in for then. So yes, it actually is a potential worry.[/quote]

She's in middle school.  But feel free to worry if it suits you.[/quote]

Well, that's still not high school. She could still turn into a stellar student once she's in high school. [/quote]

That makes no sense. Age differences matter less as you get older, not more. If being the oldest isn't giving her an advantage now, it's not going to give her an advantage when she's in high school. The more successful you are early on, the easier it is to be successful later. That's why older kids usually do better. A few months makes a BIG difference among young children, so the kids who are the oldest in Kindergarten have usually have an easy time excelling, which causes to them to get more attention from their teachers, and get tools to continue excelling and get the attention of their teachers later; that cycle continues throughout their entire school career. The reason older kids usually do outperform their classmates in high school is not because a year makes that big of a difference developmentally, but because of the foundation for success they got in elementary school, when being a year older did make a world of difference.

If, for some weird reason, a redshirted student doesn't so well when they start school, they're not going to get that foundation that most redshirted kids get that they need to be successful throughout the rest of their school years. Someone struggling in middle school is going to have to work a LOT harder between now and their high school graduation in order to get into a good college than a middle-schooler who is excelling. If she does end up doing well in high school, it won't be because she's the oldest, but because she put a lot of work in between now and then.[/quote]

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