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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Help me understand why most women who choose not to change their names when they get married still choose to give their children their husband's last name? It just seems like if you choose to give up an old tradition of taking your husband's last name, why would you choose your husband's last name for your children? I'm not criticizing. Really. I'm just trying to understand...[/quote]

I have never understood refusing to take your husband’s last name as you s have a man’s name as your surname.[/quote]

My surname is my name in the same way that my first name is my name. Once it was given to me when I was born, it became mine. It's the name I had for 30 years before I married dh. Why should I change it?

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The protocol of naming infants is far more patriarchal than women changing their name as an adult.  Defaulting to the man's last name for children is PARTICULARLY unfair if a couple with two different last names. and middle names don't count.  No one knows or cares what people's middle names are.

On a side note, I think it's hysterical that a bunch of grown ass women are still holding on to their daddy's name like it was some kind of emblem of feminist power.  Its so weird.

Prince was way more successful than ALL Y'ALL and he went by a SYMBOL for awhile.  Get over yourself.  Your career as a mid-level executive, or struggling academic, or non-profit/government G-whatever is not going to merit a chapter in a history book anytime soon, you don't have to be so self-important about your stupid name.  Your identity is far deeper and more complex than your place in the alphabet.  Please, stop making this a "thing" that is supposed to matter. 
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I kept my last name just to annoy people like you. It worked![/quote]

Meh, odds are, you kept your name because you married someone with a horrible last name or you come from a well-known, well-connected family and didn’t want to lose that recognition. But honestly, I hope you are joking. I find most people’s opinions on this subject very tiresome, but at least they HAVE and opinion!  Your one liner is just so petty. [/quote]

Ha ha!  Funny that you react so strongly to PP’s one liner but not the dickish PP’s post.

Are you always this rigid in your thinking? Lighten up. [b]And enjoy your father-in-law’s name[/b].[/quote]

It’s baffling to me that OP thinks it’s normal to be obsessed with her spouse’s daddy’s name... Keep telling yourself that, Karen.

On the other hand, it does explain how defensive she is.

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