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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tear her a new asshole among the other parents. Immature, but too bad. I would make her so uncomfortable that she'd never want to show her face at school. I would even make sure her kids' teachers, principal, the school secretary know.

I wish you'd established expectations with her STBX about introducing girlfriends and boyfriends to the kids.

You sound nice, OP. I would be such an unrepentant bitch in your situation -- both to the AP and to the exDH. I would ensure my kids had no respect for her. (Yes, I know it's the exDH's "fault" he cheated, but I wouldn't want to get accused of parental alienation or whatever so I wouldn't badmouth the ex to young kids )[/quote]

Worst advice ever....this is selfish and only will make you feel better for a minute. If he is going to be with this woman and build a life with her, then you suck it up for what is best for your boys. I had the same situation, did it suck at first, yes, but my kids love her and she ended up being really awesome. I have come to appreciate her now that we are a year in and she respects me and her boundaries as just a bonus adult that loves my kids. I even call her when I am stuck at work to help me out with school pickup. [/quote]

OP already said she's not interested in doing any of that, she's moving on. Doesn't plan to ever had any type of relationship with AP. Minimal contact with the dad only regarding pick-up/drop-off info. If AP didn't respect a family, or didn't understand married men are off limits she can expect the same treatment.

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If they are sharing custody that will next to impossible, especially if ex ends up living with this woman. I know, I interact with my ex's wife a lot....she comes to school functions, she comes to the kids b-day parties, she does a lot of the drop off because of my ex's work schedule. She even fills in for me when I am too busy at work, since she works from home.

Once the kids are old enough, they will also let you know when you are acting petty. Trust me, my 14 year old checks me from time to time. The way I look at it, I would rather my kids know they can feel what they want to feel and not worry about me being upset because they like this woman. I have a great relationship with my kids because I have allowed them to have these feeling and they know it's fine to express them and tell me. I always told them I know I am your mom and nothing can come between that, just like nothing can come between them and their dad. I think making sure my kids feel loved in both homes and free to feel us what they want in both homes is the only way to do this. It's not the kids fault...let's not make them feel like they have to walk on eggshells in their own home(s).[/quote]

They may fizzle out, doesn't seem like her ex is moving AP and brood in anytime soon. I don't think OP ever needs to rely on OW to transport her kids, or anything else. [/quote]

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