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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tear her a new asshole among the other parents. Immature, but too bad. I would make her so uncomfortable that she'd never want to show her face at school. I would even make sure her kids' teachers, principal, the school secretary know.

I wish you'd established expectations with her STBX about introducing girlfriends and boyfriends to the kids.

You sound nice, OP. I would be such an unrepentant bitch in your situation -- both to the AP and to the exDH. I would ensure my kids had no respect for her. (Yes, I know it's the exDH's "fault" he cheated, but I wouldn't want to get accused of parental alienation or whatever so I wouldn't badmouth the ex to young kids )[/quote]

Worst advice ever....this is selfish and only will make you feel better for a minute. If he is going to be with this woman and build a life with her, then you suck it up for what is best for your boys. I had the same situation, did it suck at first, yes, but my kids love her and she ended up being really awesome. I have come to appreciate her now that we are a year in and she respects me and her boundaries as just a bonus adult that loves my kids. I even call her when I am stuck at work to help me out with school pickup. [/quote]

Also, courts are not too keen to approve an agreement that prohibits introducing new partners. Courts realize you have the right to move on. But, for sure, once the ex is remarried, even if you had an agreement that states no overnights, for example, that becomes void and the court will not enforce the provision. I know...lived experience. Look, I spent 6 months seething at my ex's new woman, even more so when my kids came home and ranted and raved about how great she is...then I realized what am I doing? Why am I so mad? My kids told me there dad is so happy and it makes them happy, so what, I am going to ruin that in their eyes because I am petty? No, I did what was right for my kids...period.  Yes, he left me for her. Yes, they are now married. Yes, they seem to be great together. I am happy for them and my kids. I have also moved on and will be getting married in a few months. Wait for it....yes, everyone is invited to the wedding. Bottom line...let your anger go and focus on the kids, all will okay. By focusing on this anger you are short changing your kids of a happy mom. Just do what is right for the kids, even if their decision to cheat and blow up your marriage was selfish...don't make it harder on those kids. [/quote]

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