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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am actually laughing out loud at my desk to return to this thread this morning and learn that OP ELOPED!

([b]Also willing to bet no one thinks her kids are that cute at weddings, but that's another issue[/b]).[/quote]

Was coming to say this, too. I don’t care what people say out loud about OP’s kids (it has to be nice or else you’re an asshole), I’d bet the farm that many in their heads were thinking “get that kid out from underfoot” or “ok we’ve admired your kids enough, it’s adult time now” or something along those lines. [/quote]

And then posts like this show that there are aholes on both sides of this debate.

OP is full of herself, but if you see a kid at a wedding and get bent you are just as bad. They usually ARE cute and having fun and making family memories that will last forever. Some of my best childhood memories are the weddings I was able to attend (aunts and uncles).

People will plan a wedding, you will decide if you want to attend or not and try to show up and be happy and not be a sourpuss about ANYTHING, kids being there or kids being absent. I just can't with how mean everyone has to be about weddings, its really ridiculous. [/quote]

No one is getting bent about the kids being there; they just aren't nearly as cute as the parents think they are (which is almost always true in pretty much any context).  And when they are running around on the dance floor, it can be a bit dangerous for the kids.  [/quote]

Oh for god's sake. Show me the CDC list of children terribly injured at wedding dance parties please. You're being just as bad as OP. Family generally thinks the children they love are cute. If you don't, what do you gain by making sure the parents know you think their kids are ugly? That is not the spirit one should bring to any party, wedding or not. 
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Let me try again.  I never said kids in weddings are ugly, but you can read so you already know that.  "Children are so cute in weddings!!!" is not a reason that people should have kids at weddings despite not wanting kids at their wedding, which is what OP is arguing.  I had an adults-only wedding with the exception of my niece and nephew, who were the flower girl and ring bearer.  *I* thought they were cute as hell, and while most of our guests smiled when they walked down the aisle, I bet very few of them thought twice about them or could pick them out of a lineup. Even though my family might think they [and now my son] are the cutest kids on earth, objectively they are not.  I have never once left a wedding and thought, "ya know what just MADE that wedding?  The adorable flower girl!"  OP is acting like kids being adorable in weddings is justification for being MAD that her kids are not invited to weddings, and that is absurd.  They just aren't THAT CUTE to make it some weird requirement.

And I'm sure that many children are not terribly injured at weddings, even though some are small enough to get trampled on a fun dance floor, because those children have parents.  Parents who have to spend their night supervising their kids instead of letting loose and having fun.  Which is why bringing kids to weddings is a pain.

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I agree OP is entitled and obnoxious. I don't think people already on board with a kid-free wedding care that other people think kids are cute at a wedding so I don't understand your fervent need to educate them that children ARE NOT CUTE TO EVERYONE AT A WEDDING.

If you want kids there, have them, if you don't want kids there, don't have them. If you are attending a wedding, MYOB about kids being there or not being there. I invited kids to my wedding and some parents brought their children and some arranged for sitters. Everyone got to do what they wanted to do. A remarkable concept I know! But I know how complicated and personal weddings are and think that any decision that is made is fine so long as it is well and sensitively communicated.

The PP I was responding to (possibly you?) went out of their way to postulate that OP's kids are 'not cute'. So yes there is some air between that and 'ugly' but it seems like they were going for 'unappealing' in any context. The response to my post was also clearly about generic 'kids at weddings' not OP. So i responded in kind and then you responded to me with a long diatribe about OP's post, which was, at this point, not really what was being discussed. So don't get cute with me about being able to read. You are just moving the goalposts to suit your own argument.

All I'm saying is, 'be a nice and polite guest at weddings by accepting the event as planned and not mocking guests of any age'. If you feel the need to harp on that point, then I think it reflects pretty poorly on you. [/quote]

Oh boy, what a ride - I am the poster you responded to.  I said I was willing to be that OP's "kids are not that cute" at weddings.  You missed the "that" and think I said OP's "kids are not cute."  You base your entire argument on a misquote.  My point is about OP being entitled and thinking her kids are sooooooo cute that they deserve to be invited to these weddings.  My response is that I doubt they are THAT CUTE [that they deserve to be invited to these weddings].  Can this thread die now?[/quote]

I was responding to you and the poster after you about your general tone of being nasty about kids. It took a sidebar about being cute when another poster made the same comment, which I felt was veiled. You and I think another poster said, 'kids are not as cute as their parents think' which implies that you don't think they are cute and their parents are wearing rose colored love glasses as they fawn over their adorable tykes. This is the kind of pedantic way people talk about kids in public that many people on this website use. Maybe you are less of a jerk in real life than you come off in your posts. I hope so! [/quote]

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