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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Very important question to OP --- will you be having a vasectomy to ensure you never have another child?[/b]

I really really think  you should.[/quote]
OP - did you answer this question?  Or are you avoiding this question because deep down, you think you might get remarried. I know in a previous post (which I asked)  you stated that you won't ever remarry, but never say never, right?  So, are you not getting the vasectomy because deep down you think you might get remarried and there is a chance that your new wife will want kids and you might be willing to have another?

I seriously don't understand men who won't get a vasectomy but say they absolutely don't want kids.

I know a man who got one because he was really done. They had four kids.

My DH was wiling to get one after our second (he wasn't even gungho on #2), so after #2 came, he definitely was done.  Fortunately for him, I had a c-section, so I got my tubes tied. I also knew I was done.  I jokingly told him that if he ever wanted another child I would kill him.[/quote]
Still waiting for OP to answer the bolded question. I think if OP answers that question, it will reveal what's really in his heart.[/quote]

I told her if she says yes,  I'll go get one tomorrow.  [/quote]
Good.

And were you honest with her about why you don't want another child? You said you felt that you were too old to wake up in the middle of the night to deal with a child... that's not really true btw. You're not *that* old. Plenty of older dads have don it (including my own). It's more that you don't want to do it because it's too hard and not worth it to you.

Did you tell her this? If so, what did she say about it?[/quote]

I told her it's not worth it to have another baby. [/quote]
Not worth what?  The finances?  Sacrificing sleep and taking care of another human being?  The ups/down going through IVF?   So, what did she say when you said "it's not worth it"?

Do you ever think about this situation from your son's point of view?  Do you think it would be good for him to have a sibling?[/quote]

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