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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are making this too complicated.

1) If a person is preoccupied with something, the are not looking to talk.  Stranger reading a book/paper/phone, leave them alone.

2) If someone says no, ignores you, or whatever, leave them alone.

3) Do not touch anyone you don't have permission to touch.  This goes doubly so for the private parts.

The above applies to men or women.

Note:  rule 1 mostly applies to strangers.  If you see someone you know, you can say hi.  [/quote]

2 & 3 are spot on. Not sure I’ve ever see strangers in public that are not preoccupied?  If you don’t want strangers to meet in public places, just say so. [/quote]

#1is also clear, and this seems to be the one where all you posters seem to be being the most obtuse. Is the person doing something else, like reading a book/paper/using a laptop/staring blankly into space? Leave them alone. Making continued or frequent eye contact with you, chatting and smiling? Yeah, then you can approach.

Simple rule - if you don’t get eye contact and at least a smile, just leave them to do what they’re doing. [/quote]

You could more simply and honestly say: “unattractive guys need not apply”. [/quote]

Just stop with the "unattractive guys" whining. Most people (men and women) are not super attractive, most people are average. And most people fall in love with someone because they are attracted to the person. I've dated people of all different types but I only wanted to marry one of them, and I couldn't tell you why but it wasn't his looks. [/quote]

I am a pp in the thread, mid 50's male, not attractive...("does this look like the body of someone who shares food").  I talk to random people in the coffee line.  I find people interesting (more so than my phone), and I will chat, and maybe even joke.  In no way am I suggesting there is potential for anything between us, and I am not leering.  I do not think I have ever run into people that were bothered by that, and I have made friends this way.  [/quote]

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