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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just don't feel comfortable knowing that my life is made entirely possible by someone else's largesse.  I've always felt this way, even as a child when I realized some moms don't work outside the home.  It's an uncomfortable feeling.  [/quote]

I've been married 30 years and have been at home all but about six of them.  DH and I are both 50. I feel 100% comfortable knowing my life is made entirely possible by my DH's income.  He would tell you that his life is made 100% possible by me managing our home.  So it works out well in our family.

But if it gives you an uncomfortable feeling, you should definitely continue working.[/quote]

Fantastic answer and 100% true.  I worked for 11 years and have been fortunate enough to be home for 12.  I just laugh at the simpletons who can't grasp that marriage is a team effort, not an exercise in bean counting.  My husband is my biggest champion, and I am his - no matter which way our "division of duties" is divvied up.  [/quote]

MY marriage is not a team effort, it's an exercise in bean counting, which is why we both work full time. Not ideal, but yeah, it is, so neither of us would ever let the other SAH. In fact, we both make roughly the same amount (in 2016, I made 55% of the HHI).[/quote]

That is pretty pathetic that you even admit yours is a marriage based on bean counting.  And that neither of you would "ever let the other SAH."  Wow.  How awful, to compete not only at work, but also in your marriage.  Sad for your kids, too.[/quote]

At least I'm not in denial.  Many SAHMs think they are equal partners, when really, their husbands pick the vacation destination or the next car, and let their wives worry about the details.  What can a SAHM do if her husband decides to stay for a couple of days of vacation after a business trip?[/quote]

I don't really know people like this. For our vacations, I tell my husband to block off certain days and I schedule everything. I pick my own car. He does his. I handle all of the money. In fact, he just called me because he wants to make a pretty big charitable donation and wanted to see if that was ok with me and where to get the money from.

Not all marriages are built on an uneven foundation. Mine wasn't when I worked and it isn't now that I don't. If it was, I agree that one should always work. But it is kind of sad if that is the state of your marriage. [/quote]

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