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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reality is the sum total of everyone's choices.

If you truly agree that our daughters' can aspire to achieve their greatest dreams, assuming that their dreams may not include being a SAHM along the route, then you are doing a great disservice to the next generation of women by staying at home throughout their upbringing modeling the second sex.

This is beyond economics. For many of us, it's a gender fight we chose to fight because we believe the best way to advance gender equality in society is through participating in the workforce achieving our dreams.

No one would ask similar questions from men. Men are assumed to be capable fathers with careers.

Google Fortune 100 boards and talk with your daughters during Women's History Month. March. Sadly, many schools don't even teach women's history until HS.

We have a POTUS USA placemat filled with white men, and Obama. I hope my grandchildren will see a woman on that mat one day. If you don't think this unequal representation limits little girls ambition, you are illogical.

If you think a woman's place is in the home, by all means, mentor and teach your girls to be SAHMs.[/quote]

This. A 100% this!

The purpose of working whether you are male or female isn't simplt to earn a paycheck to pay bills. Since the dawn of human civilization, our culture had evolved such that the females of our species had been bound by childcare and their weaker physique to fully participate in aspects of life outside the home and family. We had no say in government, sciences, business, technology or the arts.

[b]The only thing we were good for were child bearing and child rearing.[/b] Within the past 100 years, we finally have the opportunity to do something in addition to child bearing and child rearing. No one says raising children isn't important, it is, but so is being a fully actualized and free individual with your own thoughts, ideas and skill set. The ability to gain knowledge in fields other than home economics and to be able to apply to any job or position we want is unprecedented and a miracle considering where we've been!!

How many SAHMs in Mclean that spend their days wiping poop and getting Botox could have been the next president, or cured cancer or written the next great American novel?

This isn't about childcare, it's about blatant laziness.

It's worrisome because these SAHMs are terrible role models got little girls.[/quote]

Interesting because I think these are extremely important contributions to society.  [/quote]
Ok, so if your important contribution to society is birthing and raising children, why should anyone have bothered to send you to school to learn to read and write? I disagree with most of what the PP said, but you're making a ridiculous straw man argument.[/quote]

Well I have a career and a solid one at that.  However, I would never ever discredit the role women have played in bearing and raising children.  It is huge.  I hope that it is recognized more and more now that we have the choice not to do so and that more men are responsible for raising children.  I can't imagine holding your opinion and looking down at bearing and raising children the way you do - so much that you don't even think these women should be educated.

Also sorry but most people work for a paycheck and their jobs aren't even that fulfilling.  I'm lucky that's not the case for me but you're kidding yourself if you think even Most men would work outside of the home if they didn't have to do so. [/quote]

I'm the pp. I'm not the one saying women shouldn't be able to read.  :roll: that's someone else.

Do you think Einstein was bored with his job? Leonardo Da Vinci thought it was too hard to paint?

Only lazy people find work and intellectual pursuits "hard"

this applies to men and women btw. [/quote]

Many of us find the work of taking care of our children and our home more important and fulfilling than any paid position.  There is no one in this world that can take care of my children as well as I can. No caregiver could ever love them the way I do.  No nanny is ever going to be as invested in their future as I am.  No daycare center could ever provide the unconditional love and security they have with me.  Yes, it is women's work.  When men start carrying babies for 9 months and  breastfeeding, the conversation might be different.  It's pretty obvious simply by the way we are made that we are supposed to be WITH our children when they are young.  We were literally designed to be attached to our babies.  For all the talk of "organic" and "natural", so many of you have no problem dropping your kids off with a rubber nipple and spending 10 hours or more away from your babies.  That is not the childhood I wanted for my children.

My kids are grown/almost grown.  Both of my daughters have graduated from college and have great jobs despite being raised by a SAHM.  They are smart, educated, and independent.  If they decide to SAH when they have kids, none of that will change.  [/quote]

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