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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When is this show going to be more realistic and talk about gaining weight, tired, lonely, and having to start wearing depends?   [/quote]

You know, I think that's the focus many people see with aging, and I *really* think it's the revenge fantasy some men with deep misogynistic issues use to soothe themselves. It's just not the experience of many women, especially not those who remain physically active and involved in the world around them.

For example, urinary incontinence in women in their sixties affects about 30-40% of them -- but that includes very mild forms, and most can be treated (and sometimes cured). Britt I've seen men online really get off talking about this as a universal problem, kind of as if it's payback for the women they had some reason of their own not to like.

Aging is head on the body, absolutely. And interpersonal relationships are a whole new balance, not to mention your complex relationship with the self. But that doesn't have to be a focus of a show like this in a negative way in order for the storyline to express truth.[/quote]

+1, most women I know have aged much more comfortably than PP is describing, especially at the ages portrayed on the show (obviously your 80s are kind of a different deal, but these women are not 80). Even my mom and MIL, who have gained weight and aged in more of a Golden Girls way than a AJLT way, don't wear Depends, and they are both late 70s. The women I know in their 50s and 60s are active, travel a lot, many are still working full or part time (because they want to, not because they have to). The ones who are divorced or never married (or in rare cases widowed) have very active social lives and most date at least occasionally. The ones who are married tend to be very active with their kids and grandkids, host a lot, travel to visit family a lot.

None of them are sitting around lamenting being lonely, wearing depends, or getting fat. They don't like 25 anymore and it's fine, they are also more confidant and generally happier with their lives than they were at 25.[/quote]

The 60 year olds on this show are acting like they are still in their 20s30s.  It’s so unrealistic![/quote]

Do you know many 20/30somethings who attend or speak at widow conferences? I don’t.
You know tons of 20something tenured law professors? Wow. 
Are dinner parties reserved for 20/30somethings, or are 50/60somethings allowed to eat and converse, too?
Getting a divorce seems to happen to people of all ages, yes?
A ton of 20somethings have kids going to college or who are in high school? How very interesting. 
Wow, a ton of 20somethings can afford beautiful, expensive homes in the Hampton that they rent with only one other friend? Impressive.
Online dating seems to be for people of all ages, yes?

Can you point to what, exactly, these ladies are doing that is so age-inappropriate? Having a cocktail? Working on a documentary? Owning a business? Supporting their spouse’s run for public office? Parenting? Being in a relationship, or pursuing a relationship? Buying and selling a home? Working? Volunteering? Going to the launch party for a publication dedicated to older women? [/quote]

I specifically like the stuff about Miranda and Charlotte parenting teens and young adults in AJLT -- I'm in my late 40s but my DC is just starting middle school, so this will be me, and I think it's interesting to see what that looks like. Especially as both of them are, in different ways, shifting from making their kids their main focus to letting their kids go a little bit and establishing more space just for them. Miranda obviously more so, as Brady is out of the house and she's getting divorced and dating again. But we've also watched Charlotte come to terms with her kids' independent choices with regards to their identities, and letting them go, plus we had a little hint of her maybe getting back into the art world when she had that interaction with Victor Garber (who I definitely think we'll see come back).

I also think it's interesting to see how Charlotte and Harry navigate a healthy marriage as they get closer to being empty nesters. And since their kid's are the same age, it will happen all at once for them. I like that they are so invested in their sex life and maintaining strong connections. Some couples drift at that stage (Miranda and Steve) and Charlotte and Harry are purposeful in not letting that happen.

I honestly think that the storylines in this version of the show are more relatable and relevant to women in their 50s than the original show as to women in their 30s. My 30s looked nothing like Sex and the City. But I relate to a lot about the show now, including having a friend whose husband died unexpectedly and is navigating widowhood way earlier than she thought, a few other friends who never married or had kids, or are divorced without kids, and living a different kind of middle age. There is a lot to relate to here.[/quote]

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