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New poster.  It is an "amazing prize".  We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them.  DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time.  They are grown now.  [b]No one knows we are blended.  [/b]They are all ours.  I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing.  (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it.  Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.[/quote]
No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead.  Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know. [/quote] [/quote]

What is [i]wrong[/i] with you PP?? The stepmom sounds like she loved, cherished, and cared for those kids in a difficult situation. She took them in as her own and they respected + cared for her because of it in return. I could only wish that every stepparent, foster paster, and birth parent could claim the same. [/quote]

Every stepparent, foster parent and birth parent CAN claim the same.  And they do.  Claiming isn't difficult.  That's all that's going on here.

This stepmother didn't "take them in".  She got her DH to sue for custody because paying 30% in child support was too onerous.  [/quote]

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