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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I'm a NP who remembers Georgia mom's story and what always gets me is the undercurrent of glee with which she posts.[/b] When I saw this thread, I knew she'd pop up at some point. I don't believe her version of events.

Anyhow. My FIL had an affair and married his AP over 30 years ago. He's been having some major medical problems lately after living a mostly healthy life. When he started finally showing signs of age and having medical problems, his wife disappeared, including moving physically out of the house for most of the year. We arrange for his care and are the ones that show up when he has problems. He had a stroke and she didn't bother to even visit him in the hospital. We have to be really careful because she is still married to him and could cut off our access, but she makes no move to help him.

I was grousing about the situation to an eldercare nursing specialist and her response, "Oh, second wife? Yeah, those ones run away as soon as the health problems start." She said she sees it all the time. Sometimes the original wife ends up caring for the man after AP/wife disappears, even 30+ years after the affair and divorce. [/quote]

Are you saying GA mom posted about this in another thread? Link?

As for the italicized. Funny story. The 62-yr-old friend of my father is an asshole. A real traditionalist who thought nothing his wife did was right. She didn't cook his food right, his house was never clean enough (she worked too), and his children weren't perfect. Long story short he decided to leave her to take care of the kids when they were in their teens (like a decade and a half ago). She wasn't happy but neither was sad. She was just upset and furious at wasting time on him. Anyway in the past year he had a severe heart attack with brain damage. He couldn't afford the live-in care he needed, so she took him into HER home. The man who left her. The man who never showed affection. Because he had nowhere to go.

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She knows that she's put her life on hold again for him for the past half year. She doesn't love him. She just feels a responsibility to care for the father of her children even when he's still a micro-managing asshole. [/quote]

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