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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure. [/quote]

New poster.  It is an "amazing prize".  We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them.  DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time.  They are grown now.  [b]No one knows we are blended.  [/b]They are all ours.  I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing.  (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it.  Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.[/quote]
No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead.  Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know. [/quote]

NP but a sane, loving stepmom is way better than a crazy unstable ass mother. GTFOOH with this every mother is the bestest bullshit. Some mothers are shitty as fuck. And kids know it. [/quote]
No one said that every mother is the bestest.  Just that the kids want her the most.  Kids long after the worst of parents.  If the parent's worst sin is that she's immature and ditzy, well, they long after that one too.  They may wish she was better some ways, but they want her.  Not another woman who's perfect.

And somehow stepmothers always say the first wives were crazy and unstable.  That particular one was smarting after losing 30% of their income so decided to go for custody.  Save money, can afford to stay home for her own kids.  Win-win. The mother, well, screw her, all she contributed was "an egg and a short-term lease of her uterus."  That's a verbatim quote from the Georgia stepmom. [/quote]

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