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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Full custody of someone else's kids!! What an amazing prize! Life winner here for sure. [/quote]

New poster.  It is an "amazing prize".  We got custody at 4 and 7. I say WE because I am the SAH parent who raised them.  DH traveled a lot back then, sometimes for months a a time.  They are grown now.  [b]No one knows we are blended.  [/b]They are all ours.  I'm not saying these early years were easy, but don't make it sound like my kids were anything but a blessing.  (And I hate the word blessing.) They are what made all the really hard times worth it.  Seeing them grow up in a healthy, stable home away from my DH's nutty ex WAS a prize.[/quote]
No, the kids know you're not their mother. They aren't yours. And they aren't blended - what is there to blend with?

You should know every time they looked at you, they wished it was their mom instead.  Whatever else they told you - kids of divorce learn early to tell adults what they want to hear.

Perhaps you were barren so you went after someone else's kids because you could buy them. No worries. The kids know. [/quote]

NP but a sane, loving stepmom is way better than a crazy unstable ass mother. GTFOOH with this every mother is the bestest bullshit. Some mothers are shitty as fuck. And kids know it. [/quote]

Oh so how you determine who is good and bad ? Who deserves to be the parent ?  
Kids are certainly all knowing on this board. [/quote]

Do you even have children to be giving them this little credit? Children pick up on a lot once they hit a certain age. They notice things you wouldn't even think they would. To think that they are blind or don't pick up on it when a parent is off or when their parents fight, is so silly. [/quote]

Umm it's called irony.

People have a tendency to co-opt children into their opinions on what 'they' think is best.[/quote]

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