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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of things weren't accepted until lately. Many of those things are absolutely of no affect on anyone outside of the person doing it, like tattoos,  or being who they are, like being gay.  But boy, do people love to look at other people and judge them right up. 
I have posted on this thread several times about judging people superficially.  It limits your life. 
I went to a bbq on the fourth of July.  It was a wonderful gathering,  full of hugs and laughter.  In attendance were those with tattoos,  and those without.  Some had many visible tattoos,  some had hidden ones. There were musicians,  artists, independent film makers, writers- about 2/3 of the attendees were in the arts. We all have regular jobs, in addition.  This bunch of people are some of the sweetest, inclusive humans I've ever met. Anyone could have sat down with them, and they would have been told where the food was, and engaged in conversation,  with no judgment.  Body art isn't something to judge. It just is, like the footwear I might wear today, or the jacket I put on, or my hair style.  It's me, or it's someone else. 
I truly believe that judging someone based on external appearance is not just wrong, but self limiting. The moment you believe that you are better than someone else,  based on dress, hair, tattoos,  etc, you've missed a chance to learn about someone new, and their story. 
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calm down.  Just because I think tattoos *look* trashy doesn't mean I think the person themselves is automatically a trashy person.  Big difference.[/quote]

Eh. I'm quite calm. But I do feel strongly about this. I think true maturity is not looking at others and making derogatory comments about their appearance. Try it sometime.  Instead,  notice something interesting about them. If you can't say anything nice.... and I'm far from perfect,  but with practice,  my mind doesn't go straight to looking at a stranger and thinking, ugh, or blah blah. It's called allowing others their humanity and dignity.  Calling an element of dress or design on a person trashy does judge their character, no matter what you think. Judgement should be saved for what is inside the human. [/quote]

I try it every day, actually.  I do all the stuff you say and I still think *in my head* that tattoos look trashy.  But I just don't focus on that.  I get to know the person and, as you say, notice something interesting about them.

Your posts are so smug and insulting that I can't possibly believe you are as nice and accepting as you want us to believe.  You can't possibly tell me you never think judgemental things *in your head* about other people.  We all do.  You are judging people who typed on an anonymous forum that they admit they think tattoos look trashy and daring to tell us all how we behave based on this.  Look in the mirror and take your own advice.

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I never said I never. I said I'm not perfect, no one is. But if you spend time talking about how trashy other people look, what does that say about you? 
I spend a ton of time looking at my internal mirror and trying so hard to be a decent person. It isn't easy to be good to other people.  I apologize if I sound smug, but I swear you'd think I was just a big introverted nerd if you met me. I was badly abused early in life, and made a vow to always try and be good to others as much I could. Early on, I was a doormat. Then, I was a messed up mess in my 30's. I spent tons of time judging others. Then I started some meditation and hard work on myself.   
I agree with you, we do all judge. I judge others based upon how they act , especially towards other people and animals. I think what you say online is who you are in your life, so these threads based on bashing other people are kinda mean. Why is it ok for you guys to go on for pages, calling people trash- and a lot of people did use that term for people, not just the tattoos - and if someone calls it out, they are smug? [/quote]

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