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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Here is how I look at my situation:

My wife stays at home -- we've got three young kids (the oldest just started school).  And man, it is GREAT, and I'm thankful she's willing to do it.  I couldn't.  It is constant attention to schedules and activities and the hearts and minds of the little ones.  She cooks healthy food, keeps the house reasonably clean, does the laundry, pays the bills, and keeps up the social connections.

I'm thankful that the raising of the kids is not in the hands of some minimum wage preschool workers or uneducated nanny.  I'm thankful she is constantly teaching the kids about the world, about morals, about important concepts that will make them more successful and happy teens and adults.  I'm thankful that because she does all she does during the day, we have time to connect as a couple when I'm home from work.  We have a great marriage and a peaceful, happy, intellectual family.  When I hear and read about the hustle of two working parents, it sounds soul crushing.  Why would any resent that?[/quote]

Here is what I don't understand.

1st... the question was for parents with kids in school
2nd... you are thankful the kids are raised by your wife not somebody else... less educated... what about teachers, teachers aids, etc... is that okay or is she going to homeschool. I have never seen a local daycare without workers that have years of experience or a college education.
3rd... what if the house was not clean, she did not cook and she had depression... then what would you do? 
4th... i get that you don't want to have any responsibilities at home, that makes it easy on you, if she wanted to go back would you take on 1/2 the household duties or would you say... go for it but it is up to you to take care of these things since you are not interested
5th... how many hours a day do you see your kids, what time do you get home and what time do they go to bed... does bonding with them disinterest you? Do you think an hour here or there is enough?

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1. no, that was not the quest

2. I think kids needs change over time, but I do believe that in the early years, kids spend too much time at school.  But no, we aren't home schooling.

3. Get her the help she needs.

4. I wouldn't expect that she'd do all the household work in addition to working full time.  That's crazy.

5. I don't see my kids that much -- about an hour or two in the morning and an hour or two at night, depending on the day.  I'd like to spend more time with them during the week, but it's just not possible with a full time work schedule.  I'm thankful that they have more time with their mom.[/quote]

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