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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dad used to scream in my face that I was ugly.  I was 4, 5 years old at the time.

When I was 9 he started screaming--in front of me and a houseful of guests we had for Thanksgiving--that I was ugly and "no one would ever take me to prom"--said in a tone that implied that not going to prom was, like, truly tragic.

When I got engaged to DH, I called my dad (my mom is dead) to tell him that "SoandSo proposed!"  He snickered and said, "with what?  a ring? to really get married?" like implying it was fake or DH was leading me on or joking me or something.

Dad is a shithead.[/quote]

My dad would announce to the family if I had gained or lost any weight, opening up the floor for comments from my younger sisters. they'd buy cookies and ice cream and let me eat some every day and then scream at me for being "fat". I was actually always on the thin side but my family are very very thin and pretty while I was only thinnish and average. Dad and mom are shitheads here too. [/quote]

This is the pp you quoted.  Oh yes, I was chubby as a kid.  Big surprise that this treatment developed into actual obesity later in life, but somehow I've managed to become college educated, professionally successful, married to a successful man, etc.  What is odd is that everyone in my family is overweight/obese to some degree.  I was hardly an outlier.  I chalk it up to 2 things.  One, my dad is abusive, period, and abusive people will beat you with whatever they can.  Second, my family was very blue collar growing up, and my father could not conceive of a world in which I could, as a fat woman, be successful, since college/white collar life was beyond his imagination and also, apparently fat women never get married.

He is not completely out of my life.  He should be.  Especially now that I have children.  However, I never see him in person or talk on the phone--emails only, roughly once every two months--and he's not allowed near my kids.  It upsets him--he has mellowed out in his old age and is very lonely--but he knows I hold the upper hand.  He often asks why I am so mean to him and "who raised me to be that way."  You did, dad!  [/quote]

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