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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]His reaction, although dramatic is mostly reasonable. Most women still take their husband's name and our society operates during the assumption that families will go by the father's name. This isn't different from women taking offense at men's suggestion to skip the ring. You're entitled to your name but this issue will likely be a tedious uphill battle for you as most men won't be happy with their wives keeping their names. [/quote]
1. Who wants a man that needs a woman to give up her identity?

2. It has never been an issue for me or any of the dozens of women I know that we kept our names.

3. In fact, relinquishing your name now may cost you the right to vote. Oh well, I’m sure your alpha bootlicker will make the right choice for you - better hope you don’t get pregnant ever again! Good luck!

4. Men are really proving themselves to universally be a bunch of snowflakes.[/quote]

2. Of course it’s not an issue for you. It’s an issue for the kids, and everyone else trying to interact with them in some official capacity.[/quote]

My kid has a different last name from me and it has literally never been an issue. Like not even 1 time in 15 years. [/quote]

I can guarantee someone, like a coach, teacher, or doctor, has had to spend extra time to verify or connect the dots that your kid is yours. Are you a step mom? Are you the legal guardian? Stuff like that. Just because it hasn’t impacted you, doesn’t mean it hasn’t impacted anyone.

Make the decision you want, it’s America, but you can’t pretend it’s not counter to local convention, and will cause confusion from time to time. [/quote]

Your trolling has negatively affected more people than my lack of name change, but as you say, you make the decision you want. [/quote]

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