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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I were talking last night and I’d love a third-party perspective.

Our 17-year-old son is planning to have around 7 friends stay at our beach house for five nights this summer, and we’re more than happy to host. I’ll plan on having breakfast, lunch, and dinner for the boys (and probably ordering pizza one night), plus having snacks around etc… though I’m sure the boys will also grab food when they’re out.

My question is: would it be tacky to ask each parent to Venmo a small amount to help cover food for the week? If so, how much  I am leaning towards yes. DH brought it up- I wouldn’t think twice about covering it if it were a one-time thing, but last summer we had kids in and out nearly every weekend. I love having the kids there and am always happy to have extra kids around so I don’t want this to imply any different. [/quote]

Haven't read through this entire thread, but I think it's how you present this to the other parents.

If you basically say my kid wants to have friends stay at the beach house, we are fine with that and us parents will be there just to make sure the kids don't do anything stupid (but aren't really there in full hosting capacity), but the parents will be out doing their own thing a bunch of the time...it's basically the equivalent of beach week (but without the craziness associated with beach week).  You are giving them a free house, but everything else is on the kids to figure out.  You don't have to ask for any contribution, but you make it clear to your kid that the group needs to go to the grocery store and buy their food, figure out their own entertainment, etc.

Hate to say it...but if you present as kind of "reluctant" hosts, I think you will still have a ton of appreciative parents letting their kid get access to a beach house for 5 days for free.  Definitely, don't ask for anyone to Venmo you money...but again, make it clear to your kid that you also don't plan to do much except be an adult presence.[/quote]

They are hosting.  You need to be clear to parents your intentions.  People like you are why I don't allow my kids to go with most other families.  You aren't supervising and don't care what they do which to me is you not being there and worthless.

OP is saying they are hosting, which is a different set up.

[b]If you are asking for money, then you are doing this to make money/business and that's also not hosting.  [/b]

Just be transparent.

I don't get why you have kids or host others if you cannot be bothered parenting/supervising them.  [/quote]

What? How? Maybe you don’t want to shell out thousands out of your own pocket entertaining your kid’s friends. You’re not getting any profit, it’s not a BnB, there’s no business set up.

Thats why I wouldn’t even bother dealing with parents, it’s just a huge hassle related to money supervision, just have the kid deal with the friends. At 17 they should be able to figure things out in their own not have a helicopter parent hovering over every step. They’ll go to college in one year, by that time they should have figured out the basics on doing groceries, planning out a budget, and not being overwhelmed about living on their own.

Obviously others have different parenting styles, don’t send your kid if you don’t agree with the set up.[/quote]

We always pay when we have the kids with us.  As adults, we pay... not an issue for us.  You shouldn't be inviting kids if you cannot pay or supervise them.[/quote]

What supervising of 17 year olds are you doing?  You don’t have a vacation home and I doubt your kid is ever getting invited to one.  Why do you continue to comment?
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