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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It doesn’t matter whether quitting sex is reasonable, justified, the other spouse’s fault, etc. Either way the ethical options available to you are the same. Live with it, open the marriage, or divorce. [/quote]

Divorce is not ethical when there are children involved. It is highly unethical [/quote]

If you believe this, you shouldn't have married for sex. If you married for children, masturbating will not kill you. You did when you were single. You would do it If your spouse were incapacitated. You can do If you have no idea what is going on with them that they don't enjoy sex anymore. But you choose to cheat because you married for sex and want to weaponize the children. [/quote]
Np. People do marry for sex along with many other things like companionship, building a life together etc. if you and your spouse are okay with a celibate marriage then that’s perfectly fine as that’s your choice. But that choice cannot be forced upon others. According to your logic people should be okay when their spouses give them silent treatment everyday, since before marriage and even after marriage they had and have other people to talk to. [/quote]

If you think celibacy is worse than [b]lying and gaslighting your spouse, and exposing your spouse to risks of contracting STDs, which is what cheating entails, you are a sex addict. Celibacy is so much better than being a lying coward.[/b]

If you cannot be celibate, that is okay. Have a conversation with your spouse. Tell them you are going to be sleeping with others. Tell them you still want to be married, but you cannot do it without sex outside of it since they are no longer having sex with you. If they cannot agree to this,  DIVORCE. Don't hide behind your kids while making their parent go crazy thinking they are imagining things. That is not love fir your kids-- that is narcissistic behavior.
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I am the NP u responded to. Where in my post did I mention any of the bolded?[/quote]

Go back and read NP. You read my response to a thread with several responses, ignored context, and  then you got triggered by the possibility that " celibacy" ( your choice of words) might be an option for some. Why does celibacy trigger you? 
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