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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It doesn’t matter whether quitting sex is reasonable, justified, the other spouse’s fault, etc. Either way the ethical options available to you are the same. Live with it, open the marriage, or divorce. [/quote]

Divorce is not ethical when there are children involved. It is highly unethical [/quote]

If you believe this, you shouldn't have married for sex. If you married for children, masturbating will not kill you. You did when you were single. You would do it If your spouse were incapacitated. You can do If you have no idea what is going on with them that they don't enjoy sex anymore. But you choose to cheat because you married for sex and want to weaponize the children. [/quote]

I have no idea what you’re going on about, but I’ll repeat - sex incompatibility alone is not a reason to divorce if kids are involved. People need to act like grown ups and suck up the pact they made when they married that they double and triple downed on when they brought in others. Sex is a physical need and also highly personal and invasive. If there is a disconnect for a time, figure it out. You will be married for 50 years. Figure it out! I’m female in perimenopause and in the ‘no sex’ camp right now and I believe 3 things can be true- I’ll try to put out more to make my dh happy. 2. He should masturbate more. And 3. If he stepped out briefly, ok so be it.

Marriage is a marathon. I’m not making decisions that affect my children, family etc over what is likely to be a short lived issue in the grand scheme of things. [/quote]

Did you tell him that if he steps out briefly, you will be okay with it? If you did not you are effectively enabling your husband to learn how to lie to you about where he is, who he is with, and whether he needs to be tested if you one day decide to be intimate again. These lying and deceiving habits tend to extend beyond one affair.

If you did tell him, I agree with your view of marriage. Otherwise, it's a short lived issue until he impregnates another woman or gives you an STD. I bet you Melinda thought Bill's affairs where short-lived issues until he went to Epstein.[/quote]

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