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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We never felt the need to have parent-only trips during our kids' childhoods, OP, so I guess everyone's different. We enjoyed our family vacations. Having kids never felt like a sacrifice.  Oldest is in college now.[/quote]

Same[/quote]

Mostly the same. We left them overnight here and there but usually out of necessity (attending a wedding or other event). We’ve never both (at the same time) been a plane ride away from our kids- but our oldest hasn’t graduated HS yet. [b]We’ll have plenty of time for that in a few years. It goes by so fast. [/b][/quote]

You actually don’t know that. Seems extreme to only vacation for 16-18 years or more with children in tow.

I love my children but also go away with only my husband and girls trips too. It’s important to me to have a life outside of my children and trips like these are fun and also help me appreciate my family life.

Focusing on only your kids for decades of life and then BOOM they are gone - will be a rude awakening and a challenging transition. [/quote]

+1000

But PP, you'll never reason with these people. They'll just start asking you why you bothered to have kids at all if you were going to spend one week out of 52 each year away from them.

Honestly, this question is a great litmus test for when you meet new people - ask them if they'd ever spend a weekend away without their kids. If they say no, hard pass. [/quote]

Good call - hard pass on the people who make it a litmus test. They are too black and white and not very creative.[/quote]

It's ironic that you're not calling the people who say they will NEVER take time away from their kids the black-and-white thinkers...[/quote]

Doesn’t sound like they are the ones dropping friendship. [/quote]

What are you talking about? The point of using a litmus test is to decide if you're going to be friends with people, not to decide which friendships you're going to drop. [/quote]

Ok. You are the only one refusing to get to know anyone because of their stance on vacations without children. [/quote]

Yeah, if someone approached the topic the way the PP did, I'm good because it's pretty clear that their line of thinking on that topic would extend to other issues and life is too short to be friends with people like that. I'm sure they can find their own tribe. I don't know why this bothers you so much - I wouldn't be remotely offended if someone didn't want to be friends with me because I am a working mom or because I have a hobby or because I spend time away from my kids or because I go on trips with my friends. Truly, I'm good.[/quote]

+1000

The line of thinking on this topic definitely extends into other areas.[/quote]

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