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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was just talking to a younger coworker about age gaps. I think 20 years is too much at any age. But the younger you are, the more an age gap can make sense because you get more out of it. It’s one thing to marry a 40 year old when you are 25. You still get healthy sperm and a coparent and partner who is in the same general life stage for 20 years. Then when you are 55 and they are 70, you have still built a full life together. But if you are 35 and marry a 50 year old you basically have very little time to have a shared life stage, and their ability to parent is compromised by their age. [/quote]

Yes and no. I would question the “heathy sperm” thesis. Mid 40s is when men go through mid life crisis. I was early 30s with a 3 yo toddler, and my exH was mid 40s and very selfish in his attempt to build a high flying career at the expense of his time with family. No, we were not in the same life stages and drifted apart after 7 years of happiness (maybe). [/quote]

Right. No guarantees but I think the prospects are better in different scenarios. You do have to always question why a man could find a woman his own age and why he did not settle down earlier and what is motivating him now. [/quote]

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