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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the gist of this thread can be summed up as this:
Parents, have your own friends. And let your kids have their own friends. Those kid friends might be completely unrelated to your friends and that's fine.
This culture that has developed of "friends who are like family" is controlling and exclusive. There are countless threads of people upset they don't have this. I think it's because most kids don't have local family anymore and parents want to develop these cousin like relationships. Your kids should of course be polite to your friends kids but they don't need to be best friends and certainly not their only friends.[/quote]

And trying to control the way other people manage their lives isn't controlling? I think the gist of this thread is that people wish they could control more than they have the power to control or influence. And they just keep trying, but it's fruitless.[/quote]

Kind of like OP who is mad this other parent had the audacity to confront her. It doesn't matter if the other person is out of line or not one of OPs friends. She can't control everyone around her. She needs to just deal and move on.[/quote]

Ongoing confrontations to 10 plus families and ignoring parents every few weeks is not the same as posting on an anonymous message board. You realize that right? [/quote]

So call the cops for harassment? The bizarre PSAs acting like this is normal behavior we're all taking part in, aren't going to change anything. OP must have left something out here to have riled this parent up so much. What's not being said?[/quote]

Why do you care? OP should move on. It sounds from the comments that OP has. [/quote]

What comment suggests OP has moved on? This woman is in her head. You would think with her close knit friends like family she would have someone else to talk to about this if she's so upset about the constant confrontations.[/quote]

The only reason I have any empathy and continue to deal with it is so her kid can remain friends with my child. I had a mom the same way and it sucked and was embarrassing and does impact the children. But the behavior is entitled and rude. [/quote]

So the kids are actually friends. But it seems the adults are socially engineering a group of friends based primarily on the adult friendships. This is what many people object to.[/quote]

They can object. They can refuse to understand. They still can't stop it.[/quote]

Who said they could? But OP is finding that she is not free of judgment for her actions. And boy, does she really resent that. But again, she can't stop it, as you say.[/quote]

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