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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What you call "schmoozing", unmarried aunts might call "company." Being elderly is lonely.  Yes, it's nice that you've visited for all these years 1-2x a year, but [b]if SIL calls once or twice a week every week and chats away with them....well, I'd leave her money, too[/b].  That's legitimately kind and thoughtful.

Is there a chance that they legitimately feel closer to her than to you or your brother?[/quote]

You’d leave her money too or leave her, and only her, all the money? [/quote]

One aunt is leaving some money and donating the rest. Seems nobody likes OP and her family here.[/quote]

That’s not clear today from what I read.

But there will definitely be a rift between the sibling families once this all goes down. And SIL, entirety and auntie know it, because they created it. [/quote]

There’s only a rift because OP thinks she’s entitled.

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And why is SIL entitled? [/quote]
Because aunt named her in the will as a beneficiary. Maybe that was a foolish decision; maybe it was a great one. She could leave her entire estate to her cat if she wanted to. It’s her money and her choice what to do with it.[/quote]

And the negative fallout will be as expected. 
You can’t keep that a secret.

Ask any estate or family law attorney what happens in the few non obvious cases things are not decided equally, especially in small American families. [/quote]

These siblings are not close. Their primary responsibilities are to their own families. It won't matter at all in the long run.[/quote]

We don’t know that, but we do know they won’t be for much longer! 
OP can always laugh it off and stay busy, but know they chose to passively or actively screw them out of at least one person’s will.[/quote]

They can’t be screwed out of something that isn’t theirs. [/quote]

That’s some twisted illogic for playing favorites and screwing over someone.

The ONLY way to not screw over your next of kin is to give everyone who’s not a felon or addict or primary caretaker equal parts. Could be zero for all, could be a pro rata for all.

Anything else will cause issues. The aunt, uncle, brother and SIL know that, but hope to not be confronted now or later. That’s their bet. [/quote]
It’s a shame that a couple gossips couldn’t keep their traps shut. OP didn’t ever need to know about this.[/quote]

Unless OP is an idiot, what was the family going to say when the aunt passes, a death certificate is issued, stuff needs clearing out, retirement accounts need administering, the will is read, etc.?

Oh nothing to see here? See you later.?

OP and everyone would know then. Would SIL turn around and lie?  Oh, I think everything’s going to the Smithsonian zoo, oh well! [/quote]

I've had multiple aunts and uncles pass. I have never attended a will reading. None of this has ever been my concern as a niece.[/quote]

This is about having one sibling and a small number of childless aunts or uncles whom you are in touch with. 
Who took care of them? Who settled their estate? Was everything donated or divided up? [/quote]

They aren't dead even dead yet. Fretting over who gets what is pretty morbid at this point.[/quote]

^ I meant in OPs case. OP is putting the cart before the horse. But in my family's case the siblings of the deceased handled things or the parent. Not the distant nieces and nephews. Where are OP's parents? This is their job.[/quote]

What should the parents say if they catch up with each aunt and discover that one nephew is sole executor and sole inheritor? [/quote]

They should be able to talk to their own sibling. How dysfunctional is this family that siblings don't talk to each other or their parents? It all appears very broken and messed up. Having several childless unmarried aunts is a tell of it's own.[/quote]

One aunt is married. Is there a problem with childless women?
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