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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For the record, I don’t think most American surrogates are poor. They are usually women who had easy pregnancies and births and see it as nbd to do another one, help a family and make money in the process. A win win for everyone involved — that is, until something goes wrong. I only point this out because everyone seems to be equating “surrogate” with “poor person.”

And let’s also remember that gay men use surrogates too and it works well for a lot of families who have no other way of having biological kids. I would hate to think a loving gay couple couldn’t work with a surrogate and have a bio kid, with the right protection in place for both sides of the agreement.[/quote]

+1 agree with this. Truly poor women simply can’t afford to have extra pregnancies, at least not in the US. You need, at a minimum, a job that won’t fire you for being pregnant or an independent source of support, such as a breadwinner spouse. You also need the ability to access health care. The contracts are simply not written such that you can rely on surrogacy as your sole source of family income. If you miscarry, that’s it.

I’d venture that most surrogates are lower middle class women looking to make a little extra to retire old debts or save toward something nice for the family. Well off enough that they can afford to invest time for a non-guaranteed amount of money, but not so well off that they would never entertain the inconvenience. I think like most people they are probably overly optimistic about their contracts working out,  probably can’t even envision just how sociopathic a bipolar rich VC woman could be, and don’t have the resources to hire an attorney to review every agreement they sign.

I don’t support banning surrogacy, but I really do think we need to recognize the power imbalance and information imbalance in these arrangements and regulate the crap out of them, with all presumptions and disclosures to the surrogate. [/quote]

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