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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. One friend impregnated a woman after a 3-month long intense courtship. He proposed with a huge diamond when she got pregnant. Decided not to marry her a couple months later when it became clear this woman had serious mental health issues (borderline, bipolar, delusional—like believed the golden retriever was trying to kill her). My friend supports both mom and child financially and [b]sees child when he can, [/b]but mom limits that contact. I’m sure mom and child feel he walked away.
2. Other friend was 12 when Dad left big Catholic family, refused to support, and got cancer and tried to change will to leave everything to his make co-worker. They were abandoned, but you can guess the situation.[/quote]
Yeah right. Same old sob story from the deadbeat dads.[/quote]

Yep amazing how so many of these women that get left are “crazy” and “unfit”. Ok so if you think she’s so insane why abandon your kids with her?[/quote]

1. Significant mental illness is very common in women.
2. It's damn near impossible to get the courts to award a man custody and deny it to a woman no matter how crazy she is.[/quote]

No, it’s not. Default is 50/50. If you don’t have 50%, it’s because you don’t want it.

Also, my dad was awarded full custody in the 90s, and my mom wasn’t even crazy or a bad mom. He was just a more involved parent than she was. Anyone who says the court systems don’t award custody to fathers hasn’t really been through the court system, it’s usually because they are completely checked out. [/quote]

Mom - refuses to work
Dad - in the military or has a job that requires unpredictable hours or late nights.

Result - full custody to mom. [/quote]

You could get a different job. One that fits with your parenting needs. That's normal for women. Ever think of it?[/quote]

Ever think that people have very different economic situations from you? [/quote]

Nope. You make it work.

My dad was the CEO of a large tech company when my parents split. And mom did absolutely everything to alienate us from him.

He quit his job and started a new career in something far less lucrative so he could be there for his kids. Yes, he had to downsize. Yes, money was tight. And he took a crappy job so he could have time to volunteer at our school and be home when we got home.

Bottom line is if you care about your kids, you do whatever it takes. Moms do it all the time. I know moms who get up at 3am to work while their kids sleep.

If you can’t prioritize your kids, you’re not a real man. Period. [/quote]
Wow, that's so awesome he was so committed to being your dad. It's really sad that some people have the bar set so low for men. [/quote]

And not a word for the mom in this situation, whose crazy BPD antics led to a pretty significant economic blow to the family? [/quote]
Why are you diagnosing random people online? I don't think you are qualified for that.

Either way, this guy made it work. He WANTED to be a father to his kids. He WANTED to see his kids. He WANTED to be in their life. 
Funny how all these other men in your life don't seem to do that. I said a few posts back - if he wanted to, he would. If you actually care about your kids, this is worth it. Your excuses for men who "step back" or "move on" are disgusting pieces of sh*t who abandon their children when it gets hard. [/quote]

And if the reason it “get hard” is because the mother is a toxic manipulator then she bears equal or greater responsibility. [/quote]
Not if the man fails to see his kids. His kids are his responsibility. He chooses not to deal with his "toxic" ex and at the same time he chooses to abandon his kids. His choices. [/quote]

So the toxic mom who works to keep the dad away bears no responsibility when she succeeds? lol OK. [/quote]
If all it takes is someone talking sh!t about him that he curls up and moves away, the only responsibility for abandoning his kids falls on him. Is she responsible for making it difficult? Yes. But again, [b]if he wanted to, he would.[/b] Many men are great dads with "toxic exs". Why do you make it sound like these men are children with no autonomy of their own? Do they need someone to hold their hand in order to want to see their kids?[/quote]

There is no amount of "wanting to" that can get your kids away from a rageful, vengeful XW who is determined to deny you custody.[/quote]
Of course there is. That's what the courts are for. Don't blame your laziness on your ex. [/quote]

You've never been in court fighting for custody against someone who alienated your kids. STFU.[/quote]
I will always advocate for children > Dead beat parents. Sorry you won't do the same. [/quote]

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