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Reply to "NYT: "The Trouble with Men""
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hmm. I haven't really found the problem that the article discusses. Some men are more interested in me than I am in them, sometimes the reverse is true. I would put it at about 35-65 in the men's favor, but that's not too terrible. I do find that a lot of the men that are interested in me don't have that much to offer - they have normal jobs but don't seem to have many interests or friends. It's not attractive because I feel like they are looking for someone to fill their social needs rather than a partner, if that makes sense. [/quote] It actually doesn't make sense and here is why--the kind of active, reliable efficacious man that will tick off all the boxes for most women in terms of marriage, children, family formation, and generous financial aspirations, is going to be totally focused on his career, his woman, his children, his family, and his hobbies to the extent he has any time to actually to pursue them. For most of these men, their wives and families DO fulfill their essential social needs. They have too many actual responsibilities to have time for fulfilling your completely arbitrary and ridiculous demand for them to also have.meaningful non essential social needs. When you throw young children into the mix, there is even less spare time. If you have a couple of young kids are you really going to happily encourage your man to go out to the bars with his buddies three nights a week? Are you really going to be cool with your man going on frequent guys vacations? I mean sister get real. The kind of completely serious and devoted man who can fulfill your family career and financial aspirations as well as be anywhere close to 50/50 on the kids and household chores is not going to be able to fulfill all those things AND HAVE AN ACTIVE SOCIAL LIFE THAT DOES NOT INVOLVE YOU and it your kids and or both of your extended families. This doesn't even include the time commitments that arise if one or both of.you has an elderly or sick parent that needs looking after. So, not only does it "not make sense," it borders on the delusional, and if you are rejecting otherwise acceptable guys because they choose not to fritter away their limited time attention and money on non essential social relationships of a completely arbitrary and hypothetical nature, well, that's on you not them.[/quote]
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