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"I probably wouldn't have married you" isn't helpful either.  IIRC the marriage vows include "for better and for worse," and for OP this is the "for worse" part.

I'm in a "for worse" stage myself.  My DH, who was healthy and fit when we married, has developed MS.  This is a condition that has many, many accompanying problems, including difficulty walking distances; difficulty holding farts/not farting (his muscles there are shot);  difficulty getting an e*r*ection; the need for lots of sleep (he goes to bed at 9).  The list goes on.  We used to love to hike together; I had hoped he would learn to ski because I love that.  None of that is possible now.  I hate this metro area and always thought we would move north, but that will never happen because the cold exacerbates his symptoms.  I worry about our kids, who have a genetic predisposition to developing MS.  This is all disappointing (to say the least) but handling it is what I signed up to on our wedding day.  I am in this for better and for worse.  I don't think about "would I have married him?" because it is a moot issue.  I *didL* marry him and I love him and we are in this together.

[b]OP, your wife is no more "withholding" than is my DH.  She is not "withholding" anything; she is having difficulty with handling all aspects of her life and is in all likelihood doing the best she can.[/b]

You need to be understanding and loving, not judgmental and angry.[/quote]

I disagree.  While your DH is incapable (I'm not being mean, I'm stating facts), my DW is unwilling.   It is a big difference.   Late posters, sex issues have been on going 6 years.  not 4 months.[/quote]

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