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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can easily tell from this thread which posters believed that the sun, moon and stars rotated around their weddings.[/quote]

Exactly, I would not dream that other people would drop everything to come to my wedding. It is not that important - personally I don't give a shit.[/quote]

I wouldn't dream that anyone would drop everything and come to my wedding either, but if I invited someone and they took the time to tell me they weren't coming to my wedding because they had a dinner reservation at a fancy restaurant, I would certainly feel some kind of way about that.

OP's husband should have just said "so sorry we can't make it, take lots of pictures" and kept it moving.  Telling the whole family that none of his family is attending the wedding because she has a birthday party the week before and a fancy dinner reservation the week after is . . . either intentionally rude or simply foolish.[/quote]

It is NOt a "dinner reservation at a fancy restaurant"!  It's "dinner with all of our grown kids in ONe place that we have planned for months to make happen.  Most had to fly to get there and arrange their vacation/work schedule to make it happen" dinner to celebrate mom. [/quote]

OP, how many of the other posts are actually you? I kind of suspected. Take the whole wedding out of the picture--and entire two weekends that simply cannot be changed to celebrate your birthday is the height of self-centeredness and immaturity. Seriously, go volunteer or something.[/quote]

I'm the PP (not the OP).  It doesn't matter if it's bday celebration or not.  It's planned events with friends and family, just like the BIL wedding.  Except OP actually planned in advance (not 4 weeks out) and isn't expecting others to change/cacnel their plans to attend.  When you plan in advance, people get to choose if they want to attend.

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See, but this is the thing: people like OP deliberately plan many many months in advance so people simply don't have any excuses. They have to commit. My in-laws are like this. They start demanding we commit to visits, trips, anything. We have college and young adult kids and we finally just say, sorry, we just can't commit that far in advance--our kids' internships, jobs, school schedules, etc. just aren't set yet. OP is like them. She locked all this stuff in months in advance--for her birthday. Very very self-centered.[/quote]

Wow, so I think OP's post doesn't make a lot of sense, but some of us plan months in advance because we HAVE to. We have elementary school aged kids, summer camp enrollment is in February, and my PTO is limited and has to cover holiday breaks as well. If I'm taking a week off work and we're avoiding camp weeks for a trip with family I have to know before January. Time off and childcare gets plotted months in advance. That's how it works.

My in laws all have no kids, adult/home schooled kids, and/or SAHPs, so none of them have ever had to plan for summer childcare or coordinate PTO for school breaks. But having to plan for a gigantic extended family summer rental before MAY is quite reasonable. Not everyone is flexible until the last minute.[/quote]

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