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1. Parents but especially moms are excusing terrible behavior instead of acknowledging it and addressing it.

2. Boys are given electronic devices earlier and earlier with few if any restrictions.

3. Both parents have to work to make a living these days and are worn out by day to day demands to keep on top of their boys.

4. Boys aren't expected to help around the house the same way girls are so they are unprepared for the real world.

5. Sport culture is toxic and it starts early. Boys aren't allowed to just enjoy playing anymore, they have to be the best. If they aren't the best then they are sidelined by the coaches and teammates in the name of winning. Many end up leaving sports while still young because of this nonsense and end up on video games or less helpful distractions like the manosphere.

5. Single parent households make it hard for the custodial parent to parent effectively because that parent is busy meeting the kids basic needs however they can.

6. Absent dads and male role models is another problem.

7. Changes is education over the past 20 years from the use of the failed Lucy Caulkins reading program adopted by most schools around the country to the replacement of textbooks in favor of random online content for teaching. Boys are far less mature when starting school and these curriculum changes have a bigger and longer impact on them. So many boys graduate nowadays being functionally illiterate.

I could go on and on but the majority of the problems boys face today are found at home.

-Stop giving them access to devices and social media apps.
- Force them to find at least one activity that they enjoy and push them become good in it because that commitment will teach grit. 
- Schedule in library time and playground time whenever possible.
- Connect with teachers at the start of the school year and at least once every two to three weeks with a simple "everything good?" email. 
- Share your feelings with your kids and let them share their feelings with you. Encourage boys to cry, get mad, sad, frustrated, disappointed but show them how to handle it.

- Set boundaries and expectations around school, chores, communication, behavior, manners.

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This is so spot on.  One of my daughter’s close friend when she was younger was a boy.  While I spent time on play dates coaching my daughter on what to do and setting boundaries, the other mother sat back and said, that’s just what they are going to do because of their testosterone.[/quote]

Many of these points can be about girls too. Lots of littler girls on devices. Over sexualization at a young age. Spoiled and coddled. There are a lot of little girls who grow to be women who don’t know the basics of adulthood because their feminist mommy was pushing the career track instead of raising her to be a well rounded adult.

My friend has a college aged son. Many of his girlfriends didn’t do laundry, know how to cook, or even pump gas. Basic things any adult should know how to do. [/quote]

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