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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was trying to advocate for my kid. She spent the afternoon alone crying while three friends were off having fun; how is that in any way fair? I am on the fence with how to respond to this girl's mother. She just responded with a "heart" emoji on my text and said, "I'm sorry she felt left out. Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can see you soon." Not even an invite or any kind of ownership of the behavior.
Maybe I am being insecure or irrational but seeing your kid in tears, left out, visibly, hurts.[/quote]

I have 3 kids. My middle was a very social kid. He is now in middle school. All throughout elementary school, he had kids over as we were the hang out house. I also had a 3 friend over at a time rule. In upper elementary, a good friend got upset being left out of an outing. I knew this caused hurt feelings and drama. The next time I saw the kid, I told the boy that I am sorry that I was the one who set the 3 friend limit. My kid suffered many many play dates where that boy did not invite my kid over as retaliation. Kids are now in middle school and still not as close. The kid was so upset that my son did not pick him as one of three friends.

My youngest is 8 and we take turns hosting. I actually don’t even want 3. I prefer 2 or even 1 child at a time.

OP should have made plans for a play date at her house and invited the others. That would have been better. Plus add on plans when plans are already made is not rude. Those girls had plans already. Make another plan another time. Your kid needs to toughen up. [/quote]

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