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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone implicitly understands that humans make choices about their appearance to convey who they are and where they belong, and that other humans notice and form judgements. I don't know why anyone is particularly offended about this on behalf of rich, basic ladies. They're doing fine! [/quote]
Hmm—NP but I feel like you’re helping me put my finger on it! I think the lack of originality combined with the wealth makes some people resentful because they feel that the wealth, nice life etc is unearned or undeserved, especially because we’ve always been told that our culture values individuality.

I also think women are disproportionately targets for this kind of criticism. The types of insults that often accompany these judgments are words primarily used to describe women (eg “vapid” “gold-digger” “cliquey”), even though there are tons of brand-conscious men who lack personal depth, spend a lot of money to play it safe, or who aren’t likely to be friendly to people who are very different to them etc. No one then infantilizes such men by concluding that they are therefore immature or sad for not knowing better at their age. Even the pronouncement that dressing this way isn’t “nice” because it’s exclusive, or people chiming in to defend women they know like this as “actually some of the nicest I know” shows the extra scrutiny and standards women are held to when it comes to our appearance. No wonder so many of us spend so much time on it![/quote]

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