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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Are you close enough with any of the moms to ask them for insight?[/b] I wouldn’t jump to conclusions now, but if he continues to be excluded/isolated I would definitely be concerned.

For tonight I’d offer a movie or some activity you know he likes, and if he wants to stay home and be sad, I’d respect that. I’m sorry those boys were so unkind to your son. [/quote]

In middle school? Don't do this. This is for your kid to navigate. Of COURSE the other kid's are being jerks, but that is life. Do not intervene with a mom, that's a guarantee he'll never be invited again. [/quote]
I guess you didn’t read the bolded first sentence. I didn’t suggest that OP intervene, and yes that would be weird in MS. If OP had been [b]close[/b] with any of the moms it would be normal after the fact to say, “OtherLarlo canceled Halloween plans with Larlo, and then the NotLarlo crew didn’t want him to join them. Larlo isn’t talking much about it. Do you have any tea?”

We now know OP is not close with any of the moms so it’s not relevant for her situation. [/quote]
Doesn't matter. What would be the end result? 
OP, I feel you. DC has a friend whose mom is engineering MS girl friendships. She's a crude woman with deep insecurities, and I feel sorry for her girls having to grow up with that kind of mom. [/quote]

Examples?  
Strategies to deal with?  For MS kid who is left out and knows it?[/quote]

You know how people say don’t go to college with a boyfriend/girlfriend? Having emotional needs already met means not taking the time to branch out and experiment meeting others.

The strategy for the asked-about scenario is to meet different people until they find a balance of friends where everyone likes hanging out with each other and general emotional needs for friendship are met. Sometimes this means branching out beyond school. One of my kids spent two years not clicking with school kids. Eventually they find something that works, and they stop caring about all these things. In other words, they become happy and confident.[/quote]

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