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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, today, I asked my husband to de clutter the car. To take everything out so that the cleaners would be able to do a good job. What does he do? Nothing. After he was done, I removed three armfuls of my kids' stuff. This, by the way, is the car that he uses. He asked where that came from, I told him from behind the seat. He is either dumb, or tries to act dumb, either way, I am just fed up. However, I recon that the other men out there come with their own messed up issues. [/quote]
Yikes.

I have the same examples, daily fro my ADHD husband. He'll say "I'll tidy the kitchen, you put the kids to bed". 
20 mins later I'll come downstairs and the counters/tables have crumbs, jam, opened mail, packaging, dry pans not away, etc.  I'll ask what happened here, why watching TV when kitchen is a mess on all surface areas. He'll say "he washed some dishes from dinner."

It's like he literally DOES NOT SEE things in the house, and he certainly does not hear anyone well. That's ADHD, possibly in conjunction with having no common sense, being lazy, having a Mom who did everything for him/his brother/his father, etc.

We are constantly doing two steps FW, 1-2 steps backwards with him in the house.  I struggle with what to do next as well. I don't think I can take the 18 years of child-rearing with someone making more messes and setbacks for the family. And if something every happened to me, the cards would all fall down. [/quote]

Yep. The day I gave up was the day he said he was going to clean the kitchen and then, afterwards, invited me in to admire it. There was a quart of milk right in the middle of the counter and crumbs everywhere (we already have ant and mice problems for this reason). I praised him and didn’t point out the milk. But from thereon in, I realized that even his best wasn’t going to get the job done and, [b]if I cared about it, I was going to have to do it.[/b] It’s exhausting.

I think the laziness is a form of compensation. They know they won’t ace a job, so they don’t even start it. It’s sad, seen from that perspective. [/quote]

What adult homeowner doesn't care about crumbs all over the kitchen and milk going bad on the counter? Seriously. [/quote]

My fn husband.  New to the thread, but this is my husband.  He makes more mess than our two kids and just doesn’t seem to be able to see it.  I’m just so done.  He was not like this in early dating/marriage, but when we had kids it all went to sh*t.  He drops food on the floor and just leaves it, makes bagels on the counter and just leaves the mess, I honestly don’t think it actually registers with him.  If I point it out and ask him to clean up after himself, he says he will but he doesn’t and acts like he did.  It is seriously perplexing.  [/quote]

The power of a pig! [/quote]

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