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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not a mentality, OP. It’s a disability. Educate yourself because sh***ing on people with ADHD does nothing since they already hate themselves. But by all means, revel in your superiority while your marriage falls apart. Hope “victory” feels good. [/quote]

Some of us have ADHD and still manage to not embarrass or disappoint our kids with our inability to be a responsible adult.
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Aren’t there degrees of ADHD though? Some people have a milder case than others?[/quote]

Yes, but there are also people with ADHD that are just jerks. My husband has ADHD that he medicated to get through grad school. He no longer medicates, but technology has been hugely helpful to him. He lives and dies by the calendar on his phone. I accept that he and I need to go through the calendar once a week while I patiently wait for him to get everything in his phone. He doesn’t complain when I travel for work several weeks in a row. He does more of the “doing” like trash, putting food away, laundry, changing diapers, etc. I do all the cooking because I cannot deal with eating at 9pm, and I do more of the planning and paperwork. We annoy each other sometimes with our different time management perspectives. But we love each other and have a great time together. He also knows I will leave him behind if he is late for a vacation that requires a plane ride and had never, ever been late. I have learned not to care if we are late for something that involves his family. He accepts that my family will always show up early for an event at our house. It works. But many of the men described in this post have profound levels of distinction that I would divorce over. [/quote]

NP.

We have left him at the house dillydallying around so the kids are on time for their games, our flights, a family gathering.

He gets angry and lashes out.

We all laugh and cry. Trying to blame others for at the last minute making a pot of coffee, getting in the shower, or taking another dump is really a dumb look. And everyone has tons of reminders.

We do wonder if he does this all on purpose, to seem important. All four of us waiting, 5, 10 more minutes for selfish Dad to figure out his stuff again.

So now we don’t wait. 
Of course this results in a waste of family money for two cars being used, gas, airport parking, another flight purchases.

Once he forgot hiss passport - that cost us $4000 in another last minute flight, emergency passport purchase, his own hotel. And had to manhandle 3 young kids back to an empty home myself while stayed another 2+ days to “figure it out.”   Oh, he blames Trump, for not being allowed to fly on his original, no  US passport. Despite the citizenship test one pager saying only fly in/out of USA with your USA passport from now on. [/quote]

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