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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question…other than just outright asking someone you are dating to tell you if they have ADHD or whatever…is there some other less rude way to figure this out?  Will people lie to you about it, even if you ask?

Seems like 90% of the relationship threads have someone (usually the man) with some ADHD or ASG or whatever diagnosis.

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NP.

Make them plan a week long vacation.
It’s eye opening.

I just didn’t know what to call it and thank gawd I packed a guidebook and knew the top 5+ things to do as I had been in the vicinity before 15 years earlier.

The problem is I am very high functioning and we met in grad school, then was his hyper focus. Fast FW and I had capacity to plan the wedding, travel, bethesda home purchase, kid 1c nanny, keep working and then WHAM!!! Needed him to take the baton sometimes and he had NO CLUE. He’d go into shutdown mode, lash out, forget decisions we discussed, hide at work more and more. It was so nuts he went to take a neuropsych test as a 38 yo. He was asd/adhd, he still won’t do anything of the things his therapist suggested or anything we (I) read.

Am counting down the days until I think the youngest child can advocate for herself well. kid 1 has the same asd/adhd, dinner neuropsych test in 4th grade.

Not the life I envisioned but I kept my career, entity and clarity in his bad behavior patterns.  The incompetency is so constant thought it’s unbelievable. [/quote]

So your ADHD kid is destined to get divorced too? Or, shouldn’t expect to get married because they’ll never be able to do what is expected of them by their spouse? I find this so sad. [/quote]

ADHD is more treatable and respondent to medicine than ASD. But i guess they could always get married and live with you!  You could keep taking care of them and any grandchildren! [/quote]

Life’s too short to deal with this crap.

I told my kids if anyone admits they have any of these issues, just move on to someone else.

Will make sure to give them a primer for anyone that is trying to lie through it or otherwise shows signs of these problems.[/quote]

Ditto and Amen. [/quote]

Giving up on someone who gave up on you, the kids, the house, on himself is fine.

If he won’t shape up for his own wife and kids…. He won’t shape up. [/quote]

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